Showing posts with label judgemental parents. Show all posts
Showing posts with label judgemental parents. Show all posts

Wednesday, September 14, 2011

I really, REALLY do not care.

What other parents do. 


Today I planned to tell you all about how I had to strip Lucy's cloth diapers on Monday, but I've been bombarded with sass ever since my post on CIO, and now I feel obligated to set the record straight - not just on the whole CIO thing, but parenting styles in general. (ETA:  This is not directed at the lovely ladies that commented on the CIO post)


I DO NOT CARE what other parents do with their kids.


I don't care what you feed them (breast milk or formula).


I don't care when you start solids (4 months or 6 months or anywhere inbetween).


I don't care how you diaper them (cloth or disposable or straight to underwear).


I don't care if you do or do not vaccinate.


I don't care how you put your baby to sleep each night (Cry-It-Out, comfort nursing, in the swing, whatever) OR where your baby sleeps for that matter (in their crib, in your bed, or in a dresser drawer).


Do you see where I'm going with this?  I hope so.  I'm not saying that I don't enjoy conversing about these things, because I do - I really do!  But when it comes to thinking about it after the conversation has ended and "judging" the other parent's choices, my logic is pretty simple and pretty straightforward:  Not my kid, NOT my problem!


Maybe it's because Lucy was the best surprise ever unplanned, that I didn't have time to decide beforehand what kind of parent I wanted to be or what was the "best" way to parent.  Maybe it's just the sheer desperation to keep my baby happy, that I'll exhaust any means necessary.  But I believe we parent the way we do because we love our daughter.  


We all love our kids.  We all want what's best for our kids.  And since all kids are infinitely different from one another, our parenting styles and choices have to be too.


When I hear the words judge, judgey, or judgemental, I laugh.  If people honestly think that I have the spare energy or brain capacity to even think about what they're doing with their kids, they're even more sleep deprived than I am. 


How do you feel about judgey moms and dads?